An Attorney You Can Trust

The words attorney and trust in one sentence are very nearly a contradiction in terms. I don’t know many people the trust lawyers; not even other lawyers! So finding a Fort Worth divorce attorney that you can trust may take some doing.

Find Out What You Can From Your Lawyer

Before you can trust a lawyer you need to know a little something about them. Some of the questions you could ask your lawyer in order to determine whether or not they are trustworthy would be on the lines of: How do you feel that your experience relates to my case? Have you dealt with child custody issues? How many divorces have you handled? How many do you handle in a year? Where and when did you get your law degree? Let them tell you about themselves.

Listen to the Grapevine

Looking up reviews on the Internet is easy these days and should be one of the first things that you do to familiarize yourself with a lawyer and find out whether or not they are trustworthy. If you know anyone else that has gone through divorce and was extremely happy with their representation, possibly they can refer you to the lawyer they utilized. If not, you may have to rely on reviews.

Don’t ever walk in blind. Know what you’re doing before you even walk through the law office door.

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What to Think About When Choosing Your MOG Outfit

Planning on attending your son’s wedding? Of course you are. Unlike other formal occasions you can’t just choose a dress out of your closest, you’ve got to choose the right mother of the groom dress that reflects your style and elegance but doesn’t clash with the theme or colors of the wedding.

Do Some Online Snooping

Before walking into a dress shop, spend at least an hour or more reviewing the latest mother of the groom dresses online at sites such as motherofthegroomdresses.org. You should know the exact style that you’re looking for and most important of all, you should choose a dress that compliments your skin tone, hair and even your body shape.

Need Some Help?

If you feel clueless about what dress to buy, why not call your future daughter in law for help? Having a little outside help will enable you to purchase a dress that’s stylish and affordable at the same time. Make sure that your dress doesn’t out do or clash with the brides or mother of the brides dresses. It should complement their dresses and make for a very harmonious wedding day.

Set a Budget

The most important step of all to choosing the right MOG dress is setting a budget and sticking with it. One of the best ways to get the most from your budget is to choose a dress that you can wear more than once. Avoid purchasing a dress with sparkles or sequins because, those accessories always add to the price of a dress. Stick with the motto “simple but elegant” and you will be able to find the right dress that you can wear more than once.

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How to Help your Teen Determine Her Bra Size

It can be difficult enough to choose a bra when you know your body and its dimensions well. When you’ve never shopped for a bra before and your body keeps changing and growing without any real warning you need a guide or you’ll end up well and truly lost. Being that guide and helping a teenage girl shop for her bras requires tact and sensitivity. You must be prepared to offer fitting knowledge and experience that will help form her expectations of what a bra should be—without treading on a developing body image or ego.

Getting Sized

The first step in finding a properly fitting bra is sizing. If you think your daughter will be comfortable with it, you should begin a shopping session with a professional sizing from a trained store clerk. The mechanics of bra sizing are very simple on the page, but we all know how hard they can be to interpret correctly, in terms of fit. Having the assistance of an experienced professional can make all the difference. If you want to determine her general size yourselves, then simply take the measurement of her ribcage at the underbust and then at the fullest part of her bust. Round the underbust measurement to the nearest whole number and add 4 to an even measurement or 5 to an odd one. This is the band size. Subtract this number from the second measurement to determine cup size.

Focusing on a Detailed Fit

Once you have a general size to go with, you and your teen can begin to try out the options. Keep in mind that you are looking for a good fit. The band should lie flat and even around the body. It should be tight on the loosest closure setting. The straps should lie flat on the shoulders without falling off and provide minimal support. The cups should be full, but not over flowing. Teaching your daughter to pay attention to these details will help her find a well fitting bra every time she shops.

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Healing After Death

Like any other wound, the wound that begins with the death of a friend or loved one will take time to heal. In fact, it may never heal completely—leaving you with scars and unpredictable aches and pains. Despite this, even complex grief will eventually begin to resolve and heal with time and effort on your part. You may never adjust completely to the loss of a loved one, but you will find that things do get better as the depths of grief even out and become incorporated into your life.

Helping Yourself Heal

Along with time, the healing process will require a certain amount of directed effort on your part. Grief can seem overwhelming—can leave you feeling unable to cope with it or anything else—and you have to keep it from enveloping your life completely as you work through it. Though you should not bottle up or deny your feelings, you also cannot let them dictate your life. Make sure that you take time to do the hard things, like taking care of yourself and staying healthy while healing. Spend time with people who care and can help support you emotionally. Though we grieve alone, we heal as a part of a community.

The Power of Positivity

Healing is an emotional journey, but it does not have to be a negative one. Studies show that it is important to remember and dwell as much on the positive as you do on the negative during this time. After all, you don’t want to focus solely on your loved one’s death, but on their life. When you do, you’ll find that the laughter and happiness that you shared can help you to heal now, just as it did at the time. You can feel all the negative feelings of grief, loss, anger, and depression that you need to, but don’t close yourself off from love and laughter. Without these things, your healing process will falter and though things won’t ever be the same, they’ll also never have a chance to get better.

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Lucas

There are some loses in life that no matter how well you think you've prepared yourself for, they just knock you on your ass. My greatest loss is Lucas.

I'm 37 and Lucas was my sweet baby boy. We did everything together and I miss him so much. The 15 and a half years we had with him, simply just weren't enough. Spending time with Lucas always made me feel happy and loved, whether it was just sitting around or going for walks together.

Lucas passed away on September 29, 2010. I didn't know it was the last time I was going to see him. He's had good and bad days for quite awhile and when we took him to the vets office, I never imagined he wouldn't be coming home. He hadn't been drinking very much or eating and I really thought he was simply dehydrated. His breathing was difficult and he was very lethargic. We lifted him up and gingerly placed him on our make-shift stretcher. It was very bright out so I covered his eyes and off to the van we went.

On the way to the vets office I sat in the back stroking his face and kissed him. Telling him what a good boy he is and how much we loved him. His daddy was driving. Lucas was breathing calmly. I then joked with Lucas and his daddy (Bryan) saying that he just needs some electrolytes...it's what a body needs. This goofy line was from the movie Idiocracy and Bryan and I laughed and I pet Lucas some more.

Shortly after that we arrived at the vets office and they wheeled him to the back. 5 minutes went by and the nurse came in asking if we wanted them to keep trying for Lucas to be revived...

I had no idea what she meant. Revived? He was just having another bad spell...

Then she continued on...as soon as they brought him to the back, he was 100% comatose. Then his heart stopped. They had been in the back trying to revive him through CPR for the past 5 minutes with no positive signs.

I couldn't believe what I was hearing. He was supposed to come home. I was sure of it...I had no idea. I was numb and my heart sunk.

Lucas was gone.

We asked to see him. I really needed to see him, to believe it.

They rolled Lucas in and I cried so hard I could scream. I stretched out my hands to encompass his big brown bear of a body and buried my face in his fur. Then I breathed in hard his little popcorn smelling toes. Lucas' feet always smelled like day old popcorn.

I still can't get passed the fact that I will never see his handsome, sweet little face again.

Lucas was cremated and is now back home with us. I purchased a big brown leather backpack from Novica to use as his final resting place. The name of the bag was "Adventure Spirit" which I think suits him perfectly.

Now that we had Lucas back, we all headed out for a cross country trip together.

It's almost 2 months since Lucas' passing and not a single day goes by that I don't cry. I'm not sure when that will change. I just miss him so much. Bryan and I talk about Lucas all the time. We think Lucas went into the coma during the trip to the vet. Where his last memories would be of his mommy and daddy laughing about electrolytes and being petted, kissed and feeling completely loved.

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Where the Mind Goes – When Life is Out of Yo...

I run on my elliptical and I even pull off a little of my own UFC moves and grapple with my husband from time to time.   I'm 36 years old and in pretty good health, or at least I thought I was.  I recently had quite a scare that ended with me stuck in a hospital bed for 3 nights and 4 long days.

After dealing with some pain in my sides for quite awhile, I went to the Dr. for what I was sure was a kidney infection or something of that nature.  Nothing a strong dose of antibiotics wouldn't cure.  After hours of being poked, prodded & scanned the revelation of a blood clot appeared.

I was quickly ushered to the hospital for immediate treatment.  Strict bed rest and no moving except to go to the bathroom.  By the second night I was feeling a bit stir crazy. I didn't feel that bad - just a sharp & annoying pain from time to time.  I asked the nurse if I could at least walk around the hospital.

The nurse replies:

Let me check your chart...Absolutely Not...you're on strict bed rest.  Doctors orders.  You've got a blood clot girl.  If that thing moves BAM - YOU'RE DEAD! I've seen it happen!

All I can think is...HOLY CRAP...BAM at 36?  I guess I'll just keep my butt in bed.

I told my husband what the nurse said and it was easy to tell he was concerned.  I know I was.

The thing you have to realize here is that my husband isn't a guy that is quick to show emotion and chat about how he feels.  Shove it down...Don't talk about it..and the problem will eventually go away...very manly, very logical.  :)

The problem with that logic is that it leaves a lot of unresolved worries and issues that always come out in one form or another.

A lot of our daily problems and concerns work themselves out while we are sleeping through dreams.  Apparently, this is my husbands preferred method.  On day 3 of my most expensive hotel room stay ever (the hospital) he came in and told me of the nightmare he had that night.

He was holding Luna our 6 pound 1 year old cat in his left hand, desperately trying to control her.  Her ears were shoved back deep in her head and she was trying to rip him apart.  Her front paws clawing with ever increasing vigor towards his face.  She was enraged, howling at him and struggling with all her might to tear his face apart.

He was beginning to become frightened, his right arm was no good.  Trapped somehow and unable to offer him any assistance.  He was unsure how long he could hold her back - she was stronger than he ever thought possible.  Luna dug her back legs into the crook of his elbow and somehow masterfully maneuvered her legs, pushing his elbow inward.  She was inching his arm closer and closer to her goal of shredding his face with her giant razor sharp claws.  It was only a matter of time before his face would be ripped into hundreds of tiny thin frayed strips of skin.  Closer and closer, her claws ripped violently through the air.

What was once a distance of feet, now had come down inches.  He could feel the wind created from the vicious clawing blows of the air, ever so close to his face.  His arm was wavering, he had no way of stopping the inevitable.  It was going to happen any second now...

With a jolt of fear he woke up and thought...Wow, that was crazy and chucked it up to dreams are just stupid nonsense.

But I have my own opinions on his dream.  I believe that my being in the hospital with the scary blood clot, left him feeling helpless and unable to control the outcome of the situation.  I think this was his minds way of processing the information and his fears in the form of the scary and wild uncontrollable Luna.

I think the worst case scenario (BAM!) is just something that even his subconscious mind wouldn't let him visualize.  Instead of a reality based dream, his mind created an absurd situation to help him express his anxiety of helplessness and loss of control.

But hey, what the heck do I know.  I've just got a stupid blood clot, not a P.H.D.

Share your insightful opinions, I'd definitely love to hear them.

Tags: out of control, human mind, Dream Interpretation