Is there truly life after divorce? Well of course there is. It can be rough for a while. In fact it can get downright ugly. Hopefully you landed yourself stellar legal representation and got what you actually had coming to you. Now it’s time to get your… stuff… together and move on. If you need a Ft. Collins Counselor in order to do that, so be it. Get one and get on with it!
Take the First Steps Back to Life
Clearly, your marriage wasn’t forever so what makes you think that your current funk will be? It gets better. Really! Remember that death and divorce are not synonymous. Just because you aren’t married anymore doesn’t mean that you no longer have a pulse. Don’t be too quick to rebound but know in your heart of hearts that it’s okay to get on with your life. Children will obviously complicate things. It may be best for your kids if you can maintain at least some kind of ‘amicable’ relationship with your ex. Have your lawyer at the ready though, just in case. And keep in mind that those kids are far more important than any childish immaturity you or your ex may be tempted to partake in.
The More Things Change…
Try to keep the schedule as ‘normal’ as possible. Your kids will adjust more readily the less they have to adjust to. If religion is a part of your life this is a good time to re-establish your faith—and faith in yourself as well! Divorced does not mean less successful. It’s time to take control of your life. You are a survivor. Don’t fritter away this second chance at happiness. And surround yourself with friends who will be honest with you, not always say what they think you want to hear.
Fear, failure, shame, guilt, rejection and anger for a time are normal. Just don’t allow them to become the norm.
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